Wardrobe :: My Romper
I’ve gotten a lot of sweet questions regarding dates, timelines and ages. “How old were you when you had Kai” and “When did you get married?”. I remember before getting married and having babies, I was obsessed with timelines. I wanted to plan out the next 10 years of my life perfectly and quickly realized that the universe often has different plans and perfect is just a word. Before I met Chris I had the “perfect” age that I “needed” to get married by. < Which by the way, caused me a lot of unnecessary stress. I wish I could go back to my 18 year old self and say it will happen when it’s supposed to happen. Stop worrying so much!
After we got married, I would look to celebrity moms and think “Ok… she had her babies before 30 and still looks amazing and is so active with all of her kids. I want that!” or “I want to be 50 by the time all of my kids are in college so Chris and I can retire early and travel the world”. I had a lot of strong opinions on my future timeline and how I wanted it to go. I’m happy to say that when writing out my past 7-year time-line I honestly couldn’t be happier with everything that’s happened. It’s been a tough past couple of years, but it’s also been the most rewarding time of my life.
There’s a whole lot missing from this brief timeline. I’ve focused mostly on Chris & the boys and I’ve left out my work-timeline. I will definitely write a post soon on how I supported myself through college, started an eBay business, worked as a model through pregnancy, transitioned into staying at home once Kai was born up until creating my blog last year and now working part-time while staying at home. I hope this little timeline answers some questions you may have had and allows you to get to know me & my family a little better!
April 20th 2010 – I meet Chris. I’m 20 years old, still in college studying Advertising & Marketing at FIT in NYC.
January 2011 – We move in together.
September 2012 – Chris proposes during our trip to Europe. Probably the most romantic moment of my life and I DID NOT see it coming. At all. Well played Christopher… Well played.
August 2013 – We get married in Paris.
October 2013 – We start trying to get pregnant.
February 2014 – After 5 months of trying, I start getting worried. I make an appointment for March to get everything checked out & make sure there isn’t anything wrong. The day before my fertility appointment I find out I’m pregnant with Kai. I can’t stop crying. I had a big plan on surprising Chris in some romantic, elaborate way but we were getting so heartbroken with all my negative tests that I just run out of the bathroom to show him immediately. When I call the doctors office to cancel my appointment, the receptionist asks to re-schedule and when I told her I was cancelled because I was pregnant, I could tell over the phone she lit up and couldn’t stop congratulating me, saying what amazing news that was. I had never met this woman and she brought so much joy to me that day. It was my first congratulations.
March 2014 – We find out we were pregnant with Kai. I’m 24 years old.
June 2014 – We find out it’s a boy. I’m a little taken aback because I’m my head, I was 90% certain it was a girl. I had the “typical symptoms” of having a girl (which I still think is a little silly). I had a girls name picked out. I had been swooning over little tiny dresses. I had always wanted a girl. I’m so, so girly that I envisioned us doing all of my favorite things together, and growing up best friends. While we were getting our ultrasound, the doctor asked if we wanted to know, and that’s when I knew it was a boy because she was SO very sure of the gender. She says “It’s a boy and he’s not shy AT ALL”. Apparently, Kai was giving us a real show of his boy parts that day. It took me a few days to get over my girl-dreams, and to snap out of it but now I couldn’t imagine not having two boys. I’m a total boy-mom and so proud!
June 2014 – We make the official “Instagram announcement”.
November 2014 – I go into “false labor” with Kai 4 weeks early while I’m at the movie theater watching John Wick with Chris. My contractions are strong but 10-15 minutes apart so I stick it out because I’ve had “Braxton hicks” contractions before. (Braxton Hicks contractions – Before “true” labor begins, you may have “false” labor pains. These are also known as Braxton Hicks contractions. They are your body’s way of getting ready for the real thing — the day you give birth — but they are not a sign that labor has begun or is getting ready to begin.) I squeeze Chris’s hand hard every time a contraction comes in and by the time the movie is over they are 8-10 minutes apart and last at least 60 seconds. We go to the hospital and the ultrasound technician tells me I’m dilated and if he had to put money on it that I’m “having the baby tonight”. The contractions stop out of no-where and I’m released after a couple of hours. Even in the womb Kai was a real drama queen.
December 1st 2014 – Kai is born at 3:55 pm weighing 7 lbs 4 oz & 20 inches long. He was due on November 29th and my water broke on November 30th while I was waiting for the elevator to go up to our apartment after going out to dinner with Chris. We spend the next hour debating if my water actually really broke or maybe… and this could be TMI… but hey, the biggest group of my readers are made up of moms so this is pretty relevant – maybe I just peed a little because oh yeah, I’m 9 MONTHS pregnant. Turns out it was my water, and we go to the hospital. I’m admitted at around 9 pm and I have Kai the next day at 3:55 pm. I was 25 years old.
End of August 2015 – We find out we’re pregnant with Rowan. He’s a Maine baby if you know what I mean. Kai is 9 months old when we found out we were having another baby. It was all planned which might make us look 100x crazier vs. if Rowan was a surprise.
October 2015 – We announce my pregnancy after Kai’s baptism when all of our close family is present. My mom and sister were the only ones who knew prior to the announcement because I was SO tired and sick from the 1st trimester and needed my peoples.
December 2015 – We make the official “Instagram announcement”.
May 6th 2016 – Rowan is born at 5:25 pm weighing 7 lbs & 11 oz and 20.5 inches long. He was due on May 4th and being Star Wars nerds, we were pretty pumped to be having a “May the 4th be with you baby” but we were equally happy with our Revenge of the 6th baby. Rowan’s actual labor was about 10x easier and quicker than Kai’s. A couple of big pushes and he was out. I’m 26 years old.
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*Photography by Stephanie Sunderland